I Wish You Would Just Keep Your Promise
After years of yoyoing your weight, you told me on our wedding day, a day you hold so dear (mostly because you were able to get a professional photographer to get photos of you while you didn’t weight the same as I do!) that you wouldn’t ever put on that weight again. Bullshit. Two and a half years later and we’re still fighting on a weekly basis about how you never kept up that promise and how your 29yo old ass looks like it belongs on a fifty year old. AND how you now weigh MORE than me. I make an effort and work out, you don’t. It drives me nuts to see people our age who look after themselves and who are fit and healthy and attractive and I have to be tied up with your lack of self respect. I’ve been patient enough, I’ve watched how you do things and I know I’m going to have to end this if you’re not in it for us. I love you and that’s why this hurts all the more.
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sad that you feel like that.selfish pri*k
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It is sad. I feel sorry for anyone who is in a partnership and who is let down by the one person they depend on for inspiration, love, support and who don’t posses a need to care about themselves and to love themselves before they try to love another. It’s vital to have that self love and self worth before giving love to someone else. It’s like trying to build a house from the roof down.
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Dump her – clearly she’s too good for you.
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Why should I dump her, can’t she just look after herself? It’s now April ’10 and we’re still fighting about it because, once again she made all these promises, started exercising, eating right and told me how great she felt and felt about herself and then just let herself go again. Very frustrating.
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Jesus.. Grow up. What a jerk.
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If I sat around all day just eating whatever, not exercising, getting disinterested in having sex and basically aging myself beyond my years, why would that be fair to my wife who has made a commitment to me?
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He’s right though, aesthetics matter. It is selfish not to put an effort in to look your best for your mate. And he does love her, he’s just extremely frustrated, this is a website for venting.
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I so thankyou for understanding. I am replying now after so long because I wanted to look up my old post to see how I was thinking then. Nothing has changed. We just get more and more distant, I try to be supportive but she just seems to want self destruction and me all at the same time. Someone help…please. I know I love her too much to leave her, I just know all too well that people simply don’t change.
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Are you kidding me? Aesthetics matter only to a certain point. But when you’re both 70 and wrinkly, are you going to push her to get a face lift? I know some people have different priorities and you have to be physically attracted to your significant other somewhat, but if you married her you most likely said for better or worse and now that worse is here you want to skip out? No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Immature people get married and when things aren’t perfect anymore you flake out. No wonder her weight yoyo’s. She’s probably stressed about what you think of her all the time. I kind of think you’re scum.
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This is about more than just aesthetics, this is about the fundamental care for each other that we should have. I have always stayed faithful to my wife but I knew then as I always have that things should only go so far. But I love her too much to leave her, I also know that I am watching the Titanic go down and from my vantage, my feet are getting wet.
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Why is it selfish to want my partner to look after herself?
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Right now I’m not sleeping because of the stress this causes. It’s 1.30am, I told her at 11pm that I didn’t want to have sex with her after she made advances. I’m just not attractive by her anymore, she just doesn’t seem to care about how she looks and what impact that will have on me. Her whole world seems to revolve around food. A lot of time she gets me food as gifts and I have told her I don’t want food as a gift. I just has a birthday on the 9th of April and because I like cars, her gift, one and only was a huge car shaped cake. She then suggested we go to Hungry Jacks (Burger King and the closest being 80kms away (just over 40 miles away) for lunch. It just seems to be her one thing, thats it, what am I going to eat next, not what part of life will i enjoy next. Someone, lease help me, I need a friend to talk to about this.
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