Girls Who Want Nice Guys
Fuck you. I was there for you whenever you called me because you’re family wasn’t and you were in an emotionally abusive relationship. And you did call me…at 3am….4am….5am…6am….and I always answered. I frequently went nights without sleeping, despite working 35 hours a week and taking 18 credits, because you needed someone to talk to. So when you finally got your confidence up enough to dump the asshole YOU TOLD ME you were in love with me and wanted to spend the rest of your life with me. I believed you. I bought you an iPhone so we could stay in touch as you were unemployed at the moment. I send you flowers at least once a month. I bought you gifts. I would rub your back for HOURS at a time. It didn’t matter that we got along great, had the same type of humor, wanted the same things out of life, enjoyed the same activities, or any of that. Fuck being perfectly compatible.
So one day, completely out of the blue, soon after telling me you wanted to move in together and I said YES, you are too busy for me. Things couldn’t have been better before then. But you start taking me for granted and walking all over me. By the end of the month you had hooked up with someone else. After a year of dating, that made me feel GREAT — I didn’t mean anything to you after all! Except you went back to the same exact kind of asshole you were with in the first place. It wasn’t that you were bored or we didn’t get along, it was that you just found him more attractive. You try and justify it by saying “we just became friends” but you’re just making empty justifications so you don’t feel guilty about crushing my heart and tearing my life to pieces.
And after about a month, you STILL call me and try to keep me up late because the new asshole doesn’t want to give you the time of day and makes you feel unwanted. But through your tears you still say “he’s a nice guy”. Yeah, right. While part of me enjoys your suffering, part of me wants to say “Hey you stupid bitch, I was the one that would’ve made you happy when you’re 80 years old. I would be the one to cook you dinner and clean the house so you could relax after a long day. I would’ve taken you anywhere in the world you wanted to go. So open your fucking eyes and realize the guy who still gets off on putting kick me signs on someone’s back doesn’t have what it takes to really love you.” Because you stupid bitch, I really DID love you. And god knows that after being with the asshole for a little while longer, you’re going to want a “nice guy” again.
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Its okay, man. Im taking perfect care of your mom.
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PWN!
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That was really stupid. Why don’t you take your mom jokes down to the local high school where they’ll be appreciated.
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FUCK those girls! I’ve actually been turned down by two girls on separate occasions because I was “too nice.” Those girls thought I was cute (nice) not hot (a total prick). I heard this through their friend both times. i hope those girls are still single looking for a nice guy now or better yet, at home with their 4 kids and their deadbeat asshole “badboy” wondering when they’re going to catch their next beating. How hot is that motorcycle now?
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It’s not because you’re too nice, it’s because you whine too much. Sack up, Nancy.
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win
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Oh, right, because men can’t ever be hurt. I forgot. They’re supposed to be stone cold stoics who never actually express anything they feel, even when it feels like their heart is being ripped out of their chest.
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Dude, you whine enough that I bet when you go to jerk off, your hand says it has a headache.
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I can’t remember the comedian, but what he said was comic gold, and very true.
“Ladies, if you’re over 30, and still think your problem is men…. it’s you baby.”
But I feel ya bro, I truly do. I was that guy to a lot of different women. Use me when they’re down, throw me away when he’s back. He hits me, does drugs, cheats on me, steals my money…. BUT I LOVE HIM. Yeah, sure ya do. Daddy issues much?
After a while, I stopped taking those late calls. I was being used. I got called an asshole, jerk, mean. Which was amazing, because those same women always said “don’t change, women are always looking for a nice guy.” What they neglected to add was this part: “After they’ve been used up like the neighborhood bike, prolly have 3 kids from 3 different dads, and STD’s running out the ass, literally.”
Fuck. That. Shit.
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hey we all make mistakes!!!
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We all do make mistakes, but most women’s mistakes are having more emotional baggage than fucking FedEx. Stop using nice guys, all you’re doing is turning us into bitter, cynical assholes, just like the guys you’re fucking and getting stds/pregant from. Take your fucking trashy pussy somewhere else and stop using nice guys like your daddy did you when he was drunk.
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No one turned you into anything. You have a choice. You don’t have to be a “cynical asshole” and you can avoid “trashy pussy” (if you are not weak). If you see it coming, go the other way. You get used because you want to. You probably derive validation from being somebody’s toilet paper. Then you turn around and get on the message boards and vent like a bitch! Man UP!
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I always said that to my ex’s, no one turned you into anything. Yet, as weak as they were, they continued to be the same lying leeching black widows that crawl through life by the fucking droves. Take responsibility, stop the double standards. Yes guys like you because you’re being a whore. Close your legs and see how many of those “wonderful” guys stop coming around. Stop being a wuss. It’s not the need to hurt someone as much as themselves, but boy do they love dragging down as many as they can with them.
Women want to be used, abused, treated like absolute shit till their late 20′s (often longer). Then when they’re used up, they want someone to take care of them and their 8 rug rats. Honestly, who would want to even touch that used up roast beef you call a poon now? I wouldn’t touch that with MR T’s dick.
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90% go for the jackass. no accounting for taste. sorry bro.
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And another asshole is born. Welcome to the dark side. Just try not to think of her too much with every girl you screw over from here on out.
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In my experience, girls that bitch too much are not worth it. I will bet that she doesn’t just bitch about her boyfriend. She probably bitches about work, school, parents, siblings, etc. She has issues dude, and there are better girls out there. After being in a relationship for 4 years with a girl like that, I finally realized that not all girls are the same and there is one out there that I will eventually want to marry. Not just any girl is worthy of my company.
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I feel for ya too, but I have to say this. Maybe this is why she bailed. Stick up for yourself, tell that bitch everything you put on here. Take your dress off and give her hell.
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The Dude is right. Make her remember you for the strip you tore off her, not for what she lost out on.
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I haven’t been as direct with her as I was here but I let her know what was up. But I don’t feel like being direct will be a magic fix. If I’m going to bend over backwards I want that person to be in love with me, not feel guilty or shit like that. Considering she still doesn’t know why she left (I’m making a very educated assumption) the relationship would end up like this again someday. Not interested unless she can tell me why she won’t leave again.
And she does have issues. Her mother was in jail for a time when she was a kid. Her dad has some degenerative muscle disease so he’s always home and takes pills that make him whacked out (I mean REALLY crazy shit). Her only sibling is an older brother who has never had a job in his life and believes he’s entitled to everything (including the aforementioned father’s medication). At one point, her entire family was addicted to crystal meth. It’s amazing she turned out as normal as she did and didn’t get caught up in drugs. We always talked about getting her life back on track and where she wanted to go in life and things she wanted to do (she dropped out of college after 2 years to get away from her family and live with her asshole ex-boyfriend). I would’ve done anything to help her. Bitch.
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It’s best to move on from this. It’s rough, but it’s best. You try and be nice, she draws you in, gets what she wants (emotional reassurance, a shoulder to lean on ect) and then pops out. She’s chasing something in her past, most likely a bad sexual experience or whatnot. Basically, she’ll only come out of it if she wants to, and with a LOT of psychological help. If you know any of her other “close” friends, you’ll notice a pattern other than with just the “jerks” she dates.
Basically, it may sound horrible, but you gotta think of yourself in this situation. You can’t be the white knight all the time. You’ll wear yourself down, you’ll get slowly twisted into a monster. She’ll never, ever want to *be* with you. Even if 5 years down the road she suddenly “comes to her senses”, she’ll ALWAYS be lookin for the next billy bad ass. Trust me, I went through this many, many times. She will never change. Let her go, she’ll find someone else to leech off of. Another black widow in the world, and my friend, this world is full of them. Go find a nice gal after you’ve had therapy on your own end to help you through this.
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Hey man, she just ain’t worth it. Her family sound like gutter trash, and she’s not wanting anything better for herself, so unless you want to go there, leave her well alone, or you’ll be step-daddy to her 3 different fathers brats, and paying her drug debts out of your retirement
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Seriously, with this type of case the girl is never going to be with you the way you want. It’s a fact, you’re the friend that she decided to fuck for a while until she wanted the asshole again. This is never worth the trouble, so just walk. Or failing that, just shut off that part of your brain for her if she’s still around all the time.
And for future reference. Be the asshole when you first meet, and only unleash the nice guy in short bursts. It sucks but damn if that’s what they want. They don’t want a pre-made nice guy, they want one they made themselves (or that’s what you let them think).
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Sorry, I’m not going to be anyone other than myself. I shouldn’t have to change who I am for someone else. It’ll save me a lot of heartache down the line. I’m not really interested in giving some false image of myself…I tell it like it is. I do ride a motorcycle (2007 Honda CBR600RR) and while it can a great conversation starter, I ignore the girls that just come over when I know they wouldn’t have looked twice at me otherwise…..I’m not a hardass and I never will be.
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sorry bro. lol himym reference? aww yeah. just find yourself a better girl.
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I’m a chick, and I have to admit, i do like to look at the dangerous kinda guys. Something about that cavalier attitude. But I damn sure am not going to marry one. What am I, suicidal?! Those kind of dudes will have you up late crying every night over some b.s. I am not the one!
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@ original poster, for the chick who left you for the jerk-off: FucK Her! Is that the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with? 4real? You want to spawn with someone who doesn’t have the good sense to know what’s right for her? How do you think she’ll treat you in the future, if she can’t even treat her self right? How do you think she’ll treat your children? Something may be wrong with her for wanting dumb guys, but what’s your malfunction? Why do you want someone that makes dumb decision multiple times, expecting different results!
Do yourself a favor and find a chic that treats you the same way you treat her. All that gushy stuff you mentioned. Your x will finally learn what’s really good for her, but then it will be too late.
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I wish a dude I was in love with would call me at 3am over some bullshit-ass female HE was in love with. That would happen all of about ’1′ time!
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I met a girl 5 years ago who was in an abusive relationship. Drinking binge and routine beatings. Her and I started developing an attraction and soon I found out she left they guy. We started hanging out and the tension was there. We made out, fooled around, but never fucked. After a couple of weeks she shows up at my door saying that we can’t be together. I ask her why, and she doesn’t reply. A couple of months later I found out she married her ex whom she broke up with because he was abusive. Anyways it was hard for me cause I really felt for this girl, and she didn’t give us time to fully develop. We lost contact for about a few months. Then one day out of the blue I meet her at her job, and she asks me for my email. Soon, emails became online chatting, then texting, calling, and the finally meeting. The tension was still there. But nothing ever happened. All the while this is going I meet a girl. They both had the same names. This new girl was nice, attractive, friendly, and very soft spoken. We hit if off, and eventually I cut the married one off. She didn’t like, but what the hell she was married. This new girl and I became serious, and two years into the relationship I started thinking about the other one. So little by little I would go to her work, and start conversations. She knew what was up. Even though she as still married, one night we fucked in a car after all those years, and it was the best we probably both ever had. And it became worse, I didn’t leave my girlfriend, she didn’t leave her husband, and we kept seeing each other and fuck. About halfway into this affair, my girl found texts on my phone. She confronted me, and as typical asshole male, I lied. She stayed with me, but I betrayed her. She gave another chance. But the asshole that I was, I still kept fucking the other chick. Eventually my girlfriend and I broke up, after many battles of wits, and who done wrong and what’s that. I still kept fucking the other one after my break-up. After two years, the affair is over, she is still married, but “separated” and we hang out almost everyday. I have very little contact with my ex, and if we do, it turns into another war of I fucked up, and who wasn’t there for who, and whatnot. The usual suspects of argument.
Anyway, here is my advice to you nice guys, and nice girls, and asshole women, and asshole men.
If it’s only physical attraction it will never work, so you have only to blame yourself, sure the fucking was good, but there was no emotional security.
Men and women are both alike, so I don’t know what the rest of these pussies are bitching about. They all want the same. Women know when men are weak, and men know what women want at a specific moment. If you have someone nice, stay with that person, and don’t take them for granted. You’ll regret it, as have I. I want my old girlfriend back, and I would do anything to have that, and fuck the other one, cause that’s what it was only. Fucking, pure animal instincts.
So let this be a lesson. And women if you do read this I am a man to admit I was the asshole. But at the same time the woman I was having the affair with was an asshole too. It takes two to tango. Thank you for your time.
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I think that alot of girls will leave the “nice guy” if he lets them walk all over him. It is possible to be the nice guy with limits. No you dont have to be the “badass boyfriend” you think she wants but you can’t be overly emotional and extremely passive. I’m not saying you were either of these things because I don’t know all of the details of your personality but my interpretation of all of this is this: A woman wants a strong man. No I dont mean physically althought I guess that helps a little. What I mean is that they want a man who is strong emotionally mentally and physically. In that order! Physical is probably the least important to a good portion of women because if you carry yourself like you have some sense, they will be so taken by your positive aura that your physicality won’t even matter! Carry yourself with confidence and by doing so they will know that although you can provide them with whatever their hearts desire and be the sweetest man on Earth, you are not to be taken advantage of. If you come off in such a way then you will be respected accordingly. If you are passive then they will be more likely to take advantage.
Is there a 100% right answer to why women do the things they do when it comes to nice guys? No probably not haha! Sorry to say. But I am far from the “badboy” image. I’m way to nice to be one of those! But I have kept any girlfriend that I have had in a happy respecting relationship. I like to carry myself in a way that lets people know that I’m a very nice guy but one that has confidence that demands respect.
It may not be the “bad boy” thing that attracts girls. It actually may be the fact that by being a “bad boy” they have this attitude about them that demands respect. Respect is attractive but “bad boys” use it in a negative way. They have confidence and their personalities demand respect but they mistreat girls because they get caught up in their own self-righteousness. Then the girls end up losing in the long run because the “bad boys” become lazy, uncaring, oblivious jerks who are eventually abandoned or cheated on.
You can demand respect and be extremely confident and still be a “nice guy”.
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Maybe the guy that she was dating was a nice guy, who treated her well..but was annoyed she openly allowing and welcoming attention from some other idiot..(you) because she wanted more attention that any person could ever give.
Guess what… What goes around comes around.. you became the “emotionally abusive boyfriend” and the next “nice guy” came alone to fill your nice guy role..
The grim reality is girls like this are insane. But what is more insane is catering to their needs and answering their stupid whiney calls in the wee hours in hope of getting poonting in case they break up with their bf..
Nice guys are not only stupid, they are selfish because all they are really doing is thinking about themselves.
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No, her first boyfriend really was an asshole. As in told her that she needed to get on the treadmill when she weighed 5’10 115lbs. I heard that one first hand. I can sit here and rattle off a list of how shitty he treated her. He was unemployed for last 3 years he was with her and had ZERO intention of getting another job – she supported them both all that time. Yeah, she was stupid for staying with him. Not going to argue. But her other option was going back to a shitty home which she didn’t want to do either. I’m in no place to judge anyone. And when I got to know her, she was ready to go back and finish her degree and do something with her life. But that somehow got put on the backburner with me. So whatever I’m moving on.
Also, new guy isn’t such a nice guy either. But that’s another story. She’s used to being abused like that (emotionally not physically) so there’s no use reasoning with her. If that’s what she wants the rest of her life to be with that’s on her. I could tell you some stories about him too but this was a rant not therapy — I don’t need to defend myself or her. Am I an idiot for being the nice guy all the time? Probably. But one day maybe I’ll find someone that appreciates me for that.
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